Sunday 20 July 2014

It's a Real Challenge

One of the things mentioned often when telling people how to manage retirement and getting older is to keep your mind active. Challenge your brain, they say. Don’t become mental couch potato. Just because you are no longer working doesn’t mean your mind goes on a permanent holiday.
what I'm learning now - how to knit using
double pointed needles

In fact, they (the people who think they know) say that it is just as important to keep your brain active as it is to keep your body active. It is a good way to keep you both interested in life and an interesting person, and at the same time stave off depression and dementia. Check out this BrainyApp from Alzheimer’s Australia.

There are many different lists of things to do to keep the brain active, but some items are on ALL those lists:
  • Learn a language
  • Exercise
  • Learn a musical instrument
  • Do crosswords, or other such brain games
  • Be creative

Well, not trying to be negative (actually, thinking positive is another item that is on many lists), but for some people, these just aren’t going to happen. Maybe these are just excuses, but this is my story.

the Serbian textbooks and notepad,
along with books about other things
(creative things) on the To Learn list
I had all good intentions of learning a language. I enjoy words, discovering the stories about words, and learning how other languages work, so it seemed a good idea. But which language to learn? English is coming pretty easily to me these days,so not that language, although sometimes I just can’t find the word I really want to use. I studied German for my HSC so try something different. I had a brief flirtation with Spanish when I had a holiday in Mexico, so again, I wanted something different. I know! Go for something where not only the words are foreign, but so is the script, to make it even more of a challenge for me – Serbian!

I found an online resource where I could progress through structured lessons, and hear the words being spoken. I got some books to help. I even knew a person who spoke Serbian fluently. I set myself a goal of learning at least one new verb (fully conjugated) each week. I made heaps of notes in my notepad (the paper kind). I took my notepad with me everywhere, and got some strange looks as I was practising words on the train. All good so far.

But it just wasn’t sticking in my brain. Gradually I did less and less, until eventually I stopped altogether. It just wasn’t going to happen for me. My excuses:
  • I didn’t have enough opportunities to practise with other, real, people
  • I chose a language that had too many new things to learn (words and script)
  • I chose a language that isn’t very common in Australia, and particularly in regional Australia
  • Whilst I enjoyed learning a new language, I didn’t enjoy it ENOUGH – well not enough for me to try to overcome the problems I was having and make it a priority

These days, the words that have stuck are the ones you would expect – hello, please, and cheers!


the exercise bike is a bit dusty
the victim - testing the glove for size -
double pointed needles have NOT beaten me!
Maybe I will get back to it and increase my vocabulary a bit more, and at least re-learn to count. Then I will be able to work my brain and my body when I’m counting repetitions during my exercise. Yep, there’s a story there too – stay tuned!

Tuesday 15 July 2014

The Birthday Festival

venue for one family birthday celebration
What is a birthday? According to the OED, it is “The anniversary of the day on which a person was born, typically treated as an occasion for celebration and the giving of gifts”. According to a friend of mine, the whole month in which his birthday falls should be treated as an occasion for celebration – a festival, in fact. I’m not sure if he feels that should happen for everyone, or just him?



We recently celebrated the birthdays of one sister and Mum
 - cake tasted fantastic!
My family are more into the understated type of celebration – a phone call is usually made on the actual birthday, but a card, if sent, will rarely arrive on time, or even in the same month. Gifts tend to be given on an ad hoc basis. This is not simply something that has developed as we have all gotten older, as I think we have all been like it for many years. I don’t know why. I wonder how it started?

Just because I am part of this family and also follow the family “tradition” of understated celebration, doesn’t mean I have to like it. Well, not all of it, anyway. I am a definite fan of the giving of gifts that are ad hoc.
Aboriginal stencil art - found on a walk we did
on Les' birthday getaway

What it means is that any gifts that are given are not just things bought because there was a birthday and something had to be given. The gifts are given because something was seen or thought of for that particular person, so it was given then – why wait for a birthday as a reason to give it? Why not give it right then? Sometimes this happens to coincide with someone’s birthday – but more often than not, it doesn’t. And why give something unsuitable or unwanted, just because a birthday has occurred?



Birthday fun!
And here is the part I’m not a fan of. By taking an understated approach to celebrating a birthday, it can be interpreted as lack of interest, lack of feeling, being forgotten. That may not be what is real, but it can easily be what is perceived. And I don’t like that.

So I started a little rebellion. For several years now, I’ve made a concerted effort to make hand-made birthday cards for people, and get them into the mail so they arrive as close as possible, but still prior to, the actual birthday. And these are real cards, not e-cards. I haven’t always been successful. In fact, I am writing this in the knowledge that the birthday cards to one sister and my mother will be late. And I will slip-up in the future, but I will continue to try.

Secret Creek - for Les' birthday lunch
At this point in my life, I do count the number of years for some anniversaries, like since marriage and since retirement. I no longer need to count the number of birthdays I have had, although I will readily admit to how many, if asked. But I do still get a nice warm feeling inside when someone remembers when it is, and treats it as “an occasion for celebration”. Les and I do that for each other, and that makes me happy.


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