Friday 21 March 2014

This Week I...

I feel like I’m lurching from week to week without actually achieving anything. This isn’t true, but that’s how it feels. I do have a diary that pretty much everything goes into, because if it isn’t in the diary, it won’t happen! But I don’t really look at that to see what has happened in the past – it is just to make sure I know what is coming up in the future.

We have been keeping a diary since we retired, but in reality, it is Les who has the discipline to write in it every day. Me – it’s just not part of my routine, so I don’t even think about it. I’d like to say that I’m simply too busy doing things to write about them, but that wouldn’t be true. And because it is Les who does the updates, I don’t think about what has happened each day, and the day passes without me consciously thinking I’ve actually done something.

One reason for keeping a diary in retirement is so that feeling of just going along, day by day, with nothing ever happening, and thinking that the retirement  is being wasted, can be kept at bay. Because I’m not writing in the diary, I need to find another way. This week, I thought I’d try taking photos as a way of remembering. Taking photos helps me remember in two different ways – the most obvious, in that I can look at the photos at a later date and remember, but also because the simple act of taking the photo makes the moment stick in my mind better.

Here are some of the moments from my week.
I finally got around to making tomato chutney from the tomatoes given to me at tennis last week.

I was given more tomatoes at tennis this week!

I picked tomatoes from my own plants. Maybe I find a recipe for tomato sauce?

Friends I have known for more than 30 years visited!

We toured through Ben Chifley’s house, bringing back memories of our own parents’/grandparents’ homes. My mum still uses a toaster like the one in this photo!

To keep the historical theme going, we visited Sofala for the Rebellion on the Turon.

I added to my egg cosy repertoire – these will go on sale in the Craft Shop.

I realised how weird the weather has been this year, with the apple tree having flowers on it – it’s autumn! Not spring!!

We rescued a frog from inside the house. It had been company in the shower for one of our guests, but when it ventured out into the living area, and Maggie-cat got interested, we thought it would be better off in the greenhouse.

And that was the week that was, so I know I've actually been reasonably busy. Do I think I can keep up this photo diary? Who knows. But I do like the idea of having a pictorial diary of my retirement, even if it is just of jars of chutney and piles of tomatoes!

Thursday 13 March 2014

It's No Holiday

near Lithgow
Well, actually, it is kind of like a holiday – retirement, that is. It all depends on how you define a holiday.

Of course I researched this – what is the definition of a holiday? The Oxford English Dictionary (OED) says it is “an extended period of leisure and recreation, especially one spent away from home or in travelling”. Wikipedia says it is “a day set aside by custom or by law on which normal activities, especially business or work, are suspended or reduced”. If I go by the OED, then my retirement certainly is a holiday, because it most definitely is an extended period of leisure and recreation, even though it isn’t always away from home or travelling. But if I go by Wikipedia, it isn’t.

All the time I was working, I had this vague idea that when I retired, it would be like I was on holiday all the time. And according to the OED, I am. But it doesn’t feel the same, and I think it’s because my idea of what a holiday is has changed. Well, maybe it hasn’t changed so much as it has been clarified.

one of the waterfalls on our most recent holiday
near Leura
I have definitely come down on the side of Wikipedia. A holiday is really a break from doing whatever it is I do every day. When you are working, a holiday is when you don’t go to work, and do something else instead. But just because I don’t go to work doesn’t mean I don’t have normal activities that I occasionally need a break from. And that, to me, is a holiday.

Holidays are a total necessity. When I was working, I wasn’t one of these people who accumulated an enormous annual leave balance, or got a visit from the company accountant telling me to “at least put in a leave form, so we can pretend you will go on holidays”. I usually had to check I had a balance at all before I could go on my next holiday! In some cases, I think I actually owed leave days to the company. I really needed my holidays.

some steps on a walk we DIDN'T do
near Leura
I think I used to get into a real rut, heading off to work each day, doing the same things each day, week, month. The enjoyment wears off a bit. Taking holidays meant I could recharge my batteries and go back to work and “real life” with a renewed enthusiasm for the job. The time off was also a chance to take a step back and look at my working life to see if it was what I wanted, and if anything needed changing.

Holidays were also a chance to see things, go places, and do things that I couldn’t see, go to or do when I was at home (or work).

Well, guess what – it’s exactly the same in retirement. No matter how much I enjoy doing the things I do in my “real life”, I need a holiday from it sometimes. The days, weeks, months would all blur in together and become years, and whilst I wouldn’t dislike it, I wouldn’t be enjoying it as much.

Don’t get me wrong – I absolutely enjoy being retired, and am not looking for sympathy. I really am at the beginning of “an extended period of leisure and recreation” (see OED definition of “holiday” above).

the results from my most recent "real life" activities
But, my advice is to make sure any retirement planning includes holidays – real, specific times designated as holidays, when you do something different to the normal activities of your retirement. Retirement is not just the rest of your life being one long holiday – it can be so much more! 
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